No one has a bad story; so don’t be afraid to tell yours.
We all have a story to tell about why we did something or stopped doing something and how it helped us. When we share our experiences with others when we are telling them about what we do, we are building trust. Whether we are telling them about the benefits of working from the luxury of our own homes, our products, helping the environment, earning extra money, boosting our immune systems, why our service will help – whatever it is, we can share our experiences in a positive way. People relate to another person’s experiences. That’s our ‘why’. ‘Why’ we started doing something, and ‘why’ we stopped doing something. Let’s try to put away the fear of telling our own story, or the story of someone else, that was encouraging.
When we are trying to change old habits, we have constant set-backs. It’s true. When that happens, it’s good to think about the stories we have heard, the experiences of others who succeeded in overcoming the same thing. How did they put one habit (good) in the place of another habit (bad). It could be trying to lose weight (starting new habit – eating plain popcorn at 7:00 pm; stopping old habit – eating chocolate cake and ice cream at 10:00 pm), starting a vitamin regimen (starting new habit – first thing in the morning, drink a cup of tea with toast and take vitamins; stopping old habit – drinking a soda first thing in the morning), reducing alcohol intake (starting new habit – drink two drinks and go for a walk; stopping old habit – drinking three drinks), shopping online (starting new habit – join an online shopping program and learn to shop there; stopping old habit – buying the same products), etc., etc., etc. Whatever it is, replace one habit for another habit. These are just examples. Everybody is different, has different habits and different goals. The point is, start replacing a bad habit with a good one and note the benefits. “Action repeated can form new brain patterns.”, says a quote in Awake Magazine, May 22, 1992, pages 8-12 in the article ‘Help for Adult Children of Alcoholics‘
After you have established your new habit, or even while you are in the process of doing that, relate your experiences. You’ll tell that experience over and over again as you encourage others to change an old habit.
While you are relating your experiences, don’t forget the ‘why’. “I wanted to lose some weight because I wanted to be two sizes smaller”; “I started taking vitamins because I was getting sick”; “I reduced my alcohol intake because I was drinking too much and it was affecting my life”; “I joined an online shopping program because the products are better quality and less expensive than the ones I was buying at the store.” Whatever the reason, it is YOUR ‘why’. Share it.
Let’s live our lives on purpose. Let’s know the reasons we do things and the reasons we want things. That becomes the “why” of how we live our lives. When we do this, it helps us to think more clearly about our everyday activities and the roads we take. Our everyday activities are what begin to lay the foundation of our future. Within a decision to start a business that we can do working from the luxury of our own home, change our eating habits to become healthier, change our shopping habits to save money or help the environment, change our reading habits to become a more spiritual person (the list could go on and on, for instance, drinking, cleaning, talking) — within each decision we make, there is a reason (why). Whatever the decision is, it will take some kind of an everyday action to accomplish, so let’s make sure our ‘why’ is strong enough to keep us doing that, because we will need to think about it often. Let’s start today. mlr
Ask Yourself Why
My Grandson, Tyler, posted this picture on his Facebook page, Salution Records.
I just loved it, because it tells about what all of us go through when we are trying accomplish something. He said, “Whether u play for 20 people or 100k people… u still doing it! Ur still putting on!! Everybody gotta start somewhere!” Isn’t that so true? From the view point of our home businesses, what I take from this is no matter who we are talking to, a group of 10, 50, 100 or one-on-one, do your best, do what you do, be who you are. Be respectful and treat everybody with the same respect, dignity and personal interest. Everybody … no matter whether they are in the audience, or on your team, up or down (family especially – but that’s another post). Remember that everybody had to and has to start somewhere, including us, and that’s usually at the beginning – not the end. Have reasonable expectations. Do your homework. Count the cost. Find your direction. Be consistent. Don’t give up. mlr
My name is Martha. I love to network (even with family ). I enjoy sharing posts that encourage us to keep trying. It keeps it human. That is how this article applies to my mentoring business. Mainly I share information and ideas and educate about healthy lifestyles and products, but I also do the same about home business. We never know when an encouraging point will help someone, or vice versa. It’s good for making contacts too (even if it comes from family). It helps people communicate. When people communicate, they make referrals. My website is www.ProfessionalMentorsInternational.com. My phone number is 505-750-7847. My email is marthapmintl@gmail.
Everything moves at the speed of trust. — Stephen Covey
Be informed consumers so you can trust what you are putting on, in and around your bodies, families and homes. Take the time to learn about what you are purchasing.
This is why.
It is so important to allow ourselves to be educated, mentored, taught, coached — whatever you want to call it — regarding the supplements we are putting in our bodies. Check the labels, check the company.
Fall, get up. Fall, get up. No matter what we are dealing with, health problems, family problems, money problems, work problems, we can cope by being persistent in trying to work it out. Work hard for what is important to you (first, find your direction and figure that out) and you will become a master at it, if you don’t give up. If you have started your own journey with a home-based business, the same applies. Don’t give up.
“The greatest gift of human beings, is that we have the power of empathy.” — Meryl Streep
To me, this means (in the context of this post) that we can try to feel what the other person is feeling, whatever the situation is. The power is in us to do that. It could be that they are apprehensive to try a new product or a new way to shop, commit to trying a new business or being coached, or shy about voicing their personal preferences about their nutritional products. Please know, I understand how that feels … I work on it every day. I work on reaching out, and I work on reaching in. Call me at 505-750-7847 and lets talk, or email me at email@example.com.
We all need networks. Networks are necessary in many aspects of life; our families, our friends, our work. Networks involve other people. We need each other.
In our work, our networks allow us establish association with other people who can help us reach our goals. Not only that, but we can help them reach their goals. We usually represent something bigger than ourselves, and our networks carry that ‘something bigger’ on, even when we can’t. Because we are part of group, a team, focused on a certain goal, a ‘something bigger’, we work together for the same purpose. If one of us, for some reason, can’t accomplish a certain task, someone on our team, in our network, our group, can pick up the ball and run with it for us. They can help us over the hump; get through the difficult time. We have to know each other and trust each other to help each other. That takes time, patience and consistent communication. It takes a track record of trust. Take the time to get to know the people in your network. None of us can do it alone. Very often we need somebody.
Even George Washington realized the importance of a network. It was written about him, “Washington now realized that isolated agents … ran the risk of stultifying their achievements by reason of working on their own. … The best way of removing this risk was by establishing a network.” Anatomy of Spying, Ronald Seth, Dutton,1963. In this case, (though not the same line of work as most of us) the necessity of a ‘network’ was realized and acted upon.
Try to establish personal contact with those in your network on some level daily. Set aside a certain time to do that, and be faithful in doing it regularly. It will pay off in the long run.
The other day, my grandson posted on Facebook that he was thinking about volunteering in his brother’s class, at the suggestion of the teacher. I posted back that, “It’s very rewarding”. As I thought about what the rewards would have been for me, I wondered if the rewards would be the same for him. I decided that most likely they wouldn’t be, because it would be a whole different experience for each of us.
For all of us, the rewards we gain from certain activities are different. For some, the reward of having a home-based business is that they can avoid a long commute. For others, it is that they want to be home with their children; and for yet others, it is the potential for the income that can come from many home-based businesses.
Working at home in slippers – aaahhh!
Whatever my grandson’s ‘reward’ for volunteering in his brother’s class ends of being for him, I hope it creates in him the desire to continue and spurs him forward, and I will always encourage him – and for those who work in a home-based business, or are considering doing so, think about what the ‘rewards’ are or would be for you, and let them spur you on. Like the dangling carrot, we have to be able to see the rewards to keep moving toward them.
Keep your rewards in front of you
12-24-14 UPDATE: Our grandson loved volunteering in his brother’s class. Some of the ‘rewards’ he realized were seeing the kids’ reactions to receiving and giving. Seeing the rewards for our good work can be a great source of joy for us, which can help us to have a happy, thankful disposition. Then we begin to look forward to the reward, and it can become like the dangling carrot – something we are pursue.
So, reach out! Think about the ‘rewards’ that can come from doing positive things, and do it! Set the goals and rewards in front of you. You can reach your home-based business goals and reap the rewards.
I attended a class recently where one of my fellow students passed out a q-tip to each of us. She said she had learned this lesson years ago in a psychology class and it applied to what we were learning that day. Of course, a few said, “Q-tip? What’s this for?” She smiled and said, “Quit taking it personally.” I keep it in my purse.
We hear it all the time. We hear it from our mentors, our leaders, our team members. I hear it and I say it. “They’re not saying no to ‘you’, they’re just saying no to the invitation right now.” Or, “Don’t worry. Next time more people will show up. Best foot forward.” I repeat all of that positive self talk constantly. Still, once in awhile, there is a nagging doubt, a feeling that they said ‘no’ because of me – something I said or something I did.
Hence, the q-tip.
When seeds of self-doubt begin to be planted, do whatever possible to stop them from taking root. When we are working hard every day; following our schedule and routine; know our product; are presenting the product or offering an invitation to look at it – and are doing these things regularly, we will hear ‘no’. We will hear objections. Remember though, to quit taking it personally and move on. Keep going. Everyone has their own ideas and opinions about products, business models and companies. If our job is to invite someone to look at ours, and we do, and they say ‘no’, move on. Quit taking it personally. If we take it personally every time, it will be hard for us to move on and keep going. I keep the q-tip in my purse.
If you try to chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one. The point here is that focus is crucial to accomplishing things. We have better mental and emotional health when we feel good about accomplishing things. When we focus on the tasks that will help our business grow and we accomplish these tasks, we get results.